Have you ever been in a situation where your conversation ended up in a conflict/anger or argument?
there could be many reasons..
- You may not have complete knowledge of the subject.
- you may not have evaluated that the person is right to have the conversation.
In any case it is our assessment which has gaps or is flawed. We need to work on our analytical skills to avoid a situation.
Intellect is a complicated thing.. Is the other person open to the conversation or the ideas and does not have a intellect to hear the other person out and have a debate or a conversation.. then why are we even having the conversation. We should back out and find a person who is worthy and willing to grow with the knowledge and connect the dots.
Most of the conflicts around us are caused due to...
- Lack of awareness
- Rigidity to change
- Having preconceived opinions/notions.
- Lack of being open to the world/information
The conflict does not even arise among people who are open for conversations and willing to understand other persons point of view. Irrigation/anger is not letting us solve the problems. We are trying to get clarity and predictability. Every one has a point of view about how to deal with a situation, but then there is always a reason why we don't want to go the other way. A reason is not good enough when we cannot describe or articulate it and express our dilemma.
Sometime we thing that a solution has to be perfect or it cannot have unknowns. Can we predict how we will act the next adverse event.. it is hard to .. so a solution is as good as what we know at the moment and there could be some unknowns that needs to be dealt with as they come forward.
World and People around us: We may think what we know is the truth/whole, but most of the time there is always something that we are not aware of. So navigating our way through it is the best option, as we are willing to listen and answer.. in the process we learn and appear humble. It is humane not to appreciate arrogance.
Human Mind decides to dislike then there is no turning back unless: It is just that we as humans take time to make a belief or understand something. Once done it is hard for us to change the perspective about something. Imagine some one has done that what is the probability of they accepting your point of view. One needs to be able to articulate information is a very structured and sequential manner for other to be able to appreciate your perspective. We have to be able to articulate our thoughts and information is a expressive and positive way.
Forcing routine/structure around our life: Surprise and sudden events can cause us unease. We should try to be predictable is what ever means possible. Since we are predictable we don't have to get surprised or plan at the last moment , which can cause uncertainty in the subsequent events and eventually in life as a whole.
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